Integrity is freedom from any bonds of outer authority.
Integrity is deep rootedness in moral values, given by friendship, compassion and liberation.
Simply denying all moral values, ideas, views and beliefs from the outer would lead to mere selfishness and confusion. Adaptation of the same external values, without pervading their importance will lead to an ongoing struggle between what one is and one is supposed to be.
Integrity has its roots in devotion to moral values. But not values picked mindlessly somewhere or being instilled into us from childhood. But rather values that emerge out of our inner authority, aroused by compassion and friendship. Those are the values that have the solidity and power to influence our actions deeply and to become the pillar stones of integrity. Knowing that there is something more important than our own feeling of security and comfort is freeing. Trust in our inner strength to stand in for these values, even when this has discomfort for ourselves as a consequence, creates integrity. A feeling of fearlessness evoked by holding dear the importance of community, friendship and love. In the big things and the small things in life.
Caution: There is no feeling of „better than“ in integrity! We strive for this quality, we aspire to grow into very big shoes. Not to compare ourselves with others in this very intimate and personal journey, but to free ourselves from fear and the narrow confinements of self-interest.
„Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. […]
The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails, the way in which he takes up his cross, gives ample opportunity – even under the most difficult circumstances – to add a deeper meaning to this life.“
Viktor Frankl, „Man search for Meaning“
Which values are accompanying our lies and confirm friendship and compassion?
What is necessary in order to feel safe with others?
What rules do we aspire to bow to, so others can feel safe with us?